"my secret to a happy marriage"
recently, joanna goddard who had just gotten married, got various people to share about their secret to a happy marriage on her blog: cup of jo.
my favourite is stephanie nielson's.
reading about other people's secrets to a happy marriage not only makes me ponder about our secret to keeping our happy marriage but also reminds me that i should never take a good marriage for granted. :)
to keep a marriage is hard but to keep it happy is even harder.
my mister and i met each other in college and courted each other for almost 10 yrs before we got married!
our first couple watch was the swatch black and white, min and hour hand watches!
we were still in college and i chose to wear the white minute watch (haha) because it's more helpful!
anyway, to cut the long story short, i thought that our struggles were over once married but no!
there were lots of expectations to deal with especially after we had children.
but we've come to realise that we have to submit to GOd's sovereignty,
make Him the priority of our lives followed by our marriage, our family and career.
so what does this mean in practice?
we never go to bed unless we've sorted out our differences, unhappiness, temptations, uneasiness or even a doubt before God.
we never give up trying to get up early everyday in the morning to pray and read the bible together.
we believe that love is about the will more than it is about the emotions:
we believe that God gives us the will and the ability to act lovingly.
we always travel together and avoid long business travels.
we always apologize when we are wrong even in front of our children.
we leave ourselves with no other options but to stick to each other and to be in partnership in bringing up our children and in gospel work (no outsourcing).
above all things, the joy and blessings of a happy marriage comes from GOd.
if you don't feel right with your spouse or with your marriage, never avoid the problem and indulge in work or other things.
confront it, work on it, pray about it and build, rebuild and revive the relationship with the help of GOd.
a husband and wife is like a pair of swatches: one with the hour hand and the other a minute hand, you can only tell the exact time when you put them together!!!!
thank you for reading!
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